Childish Thinking vs. Adult Thinking
When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put childish ways behind me.
Ryan has a message for you from Yo Gabba Gabba:
Of course perseverance can be a very good quality, but sometimes, it can lead to a sort of ignorant and destructive naivete:
As TDW reader Mike Pants comments:
Ryan, sometimes we do not have a particular aptitude, adequate resources, or the necessary skill level to complete tasks. To think that anything can be accomplished simply through determination and perseverance is hopelessly naive and could lead you down paths that have the potential to be personally and financially ruinous.
There is a reason folding your cards is an option in poker, Ryan. Being able to apply sound judgment in assessing when it is time to cut your losses is an important part of being a successful adult. The sooner you learn that, the better.
False positivity is delusional wishes cloaked in childish philosophy. Insisting that things will go right, or even must go right, if you just “Don’t stop trying” is actually a good formula for failure. Recognizing that events can go very poorly gives a person a much broader view from which to judge their own actions and the reality of a situation.
Let me put this in church language for you: have you ever been around a church that is slowly shrinking (dying!) in numbers? Doing what they’ve always done? And explaining their current predicament this way, “The Lord is just sifting out the chaff…” Yeah. That’s false positivity: we’re doing it for God, it has to be blessed! No it doesn’t.
There are a myriad of closed churches, restaurants, businesses. Failed marriages, bankruptcies, and repossessed houses and cars that attest to this very simple fact. Many of these situations have happened to good people.
Things do not have to “work out”: Recognizing this will make you more effective in almost everything you do.